What is enabling?
Enabling—the act of making excuses, shielding or taking responsibility for another’s harmful actions—is a common reaction to addiction. The goal of enabling is usually to protect addicts from the consequences of their actions.
While often done out of love or fear for the addict, enabling usually perpetuates addiction by allowing the addict to deny their problem and its consequences. Most addicts have a network of enablers who unwittingly allow addictive behavior to continue.