February 14, 2016
Do any of these statements apply to you?
- I feel disconnected from my spouse; it’s like I’m living with a stranger
- I take on all the responsibility; it’s easier to take care of it than expect my spouse to manage their share
- I fear change and am willing to go to great lengths to hold it all together
- My spouse spends significant amounts of time unaccounted for
- I sometimes feel like my spouse’s behavior is my fault. It will reflect poorly on me as a mother and a wife if other people know about it.
- I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells; I don’t know what to expect from day to day
- I’m exhausted and it’s easier to isolate myself from my friends and family than pretend like everything is fine
- My spouse is being more secretive lately
- I’ve been noticing mood swings and personality changes in my spouse
If you said yes to any of these statements, it’s possible your spouse may suffer from addiction. Please know that you are not alone. You are doing the best you can. Help is available.
Here are some things you should know:
Addiction is a family disease – it impacts the lives of everyone in the family.
It’s important to seek your own treatment so you can begin your path to recovery. Al-Anon is a good place for support for your own well being as is individual therapy with a therapist who also understands addiction and its impact on the family.
There is hope – many individuals do go through treatment, emerge healthier, and live a life in recovery with their family. However, it’s a process and will be something both you and your spouse have to work on in your own respective ways.
Stay safe – If you have concerns about your safety and the safety of your children, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Read first hand from the spouse of someone suffering from addiction.