February 06, 2015
Last Friday, we began the first of a series of topics based on the 12 spiritual principles of each of the 12 Steps. This first discussion was about honesty – self-honesty and honesty with others. We spoke not only about the truth of who we have been as addicts, but also the truth of who we really are as spiritual beings.
I offered the quote by M. Williamson that Nelson Mandela used in his 1994 inaugural speech:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light not our Darkness, that most frightens us. You are a child of G-d. Your playing small does not serve the World.”
I played a Gregorian chant and led the patients in a five minute meditation. After a few spiritual readings by the patients, I played the song “Breakable” by Ingrid Michaelson. Before playing the piece I told the patients to really listen because I would later ask why I chose this song for the topic of honesty. After we listened, one patient commented, “We have this idea that we are invincible, but we’re not. We can break; we can die.”
We then passed the bag of “If” questions around:
Q: If you could say what the most important job of a parent is, what would you say?
A: To make sure a child really feels loved.
Q: If you could change one thing about your mother’s life what would you change?
A: That my little sister didn’t die.
Q: If you could ask G-d any question what would you ask?
A: G-d, does everything that happens have a purpose?
We then returned to the topic of honesty and went into small groups.
So often we continue our old behaviors out of habit or fear even though we know things have changed. So what can we do about that? What is the hardest thing to get honest about? What do you need to get honest about? Why is honesty “spiritual”? These were some of the questions we discussed in the small groups and the following were some responses:
- “I always lied about everything. It actually feels good to not lie anymore.”
- “It’s hard to tell the truth about my family because I feel like I’m ratting them out.”
- “I need to be honest and say that I still want to use, but that’s a hard thing to say.”
I just love this work. Blessings to you all!
Reverend Laurie Durgan